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Parshat Shemot 5784
We All Ask, “Who Am I?”
By Rabbi Daniel Korobkin Parents often ask their children, “What do you want to be when you group up?” They sometimes get the typical answer: nurse, doctor, fire fighter, etc. Sometimes, the responses are unexpected. One of my children once answered that he wanted to be a fire truck. One girl named Suzy, when asked this question, answered, “I want to be Suzy. If I become someone else, then who will be Suzy? I just want to be myself.” There’s a halakhah that states: When a person is asked to be the Shaliach Tzibur (the person who leads the prayers in synagogue), he should initially decline. When asked a second time, he should hesitate slightly. When asked a third time, he should ascend to the cantor’s post immediately. The Talmud (TB Berachot 34a), which is the source of this law, states: “One who doesn’t hesitate at all is like a cooked food without salt; one who refuses excessively is like a cooked food with too much salt.” The Sfas Emes remarked that three biblical figures acted as examples of three types of people: (1) Korach aspired for honor, and was like the food without salt at all. (2) Aharon hesitated when invited to be a Kohen, but only initially, and therefore he was like the food with just the right amount of salt. (3) Moshe, when told by God to be the redeemer of Israel, refused excessively, and was like the food that is too salty.Moshe's refusals
Moshe refused Hashem’s invitation a full three times. The first time he refused was when he said (3:11), “מִי אָנֹכִי” – “Who am I, that I should go to Pharaoh, and that I should take Bnei Israel out of Egypt?” The second time he demurred was based on his having a speech impediment (4:10): “בִּי אֲדֹ-נָי” “O God, there is a defect in me! I am not a man of words… I am rather a man of heavy mouth and tongue.” The third time Moshe refused, he didn’t give an apparent reason, but simply said, very cryptically (4:13): Once again, “בִּי אֲדֹ-נָי” – the problem is within me. “שְׁלַח־נָא בְּיַד־תִּשְׁלָח” – “Send now, in a hand send.” We don’t even know what those words mean, but this refusal raised Hashem’s subsequent ire against Moshe (4:14). Why did Moshe refuse three times, and how do we understand his final objection? There are so many different ways of understanding the vision of the Burning Bush. Rashi’s grandson, Rabbi Shmuel ben Meir (Rashba”m) has a fascinating interpretation (3:11). He suggests that the Burning Bush was a model to Moshe about himself. Every human being is usually in charge of and limited by his natural abilities. But there are times when miracles occur, and the human being is “possessed,” as it were, with superhuman abilities that far exceed his own abilities. A regular bush would normally be consumed if it was infused with so much fiery energy. However, there are times when God can infuse an individual with power that would normally consume him; miraculously, the individual endures that power and accomplishes great things with it.Have no fear
Hashem was telling Moshe that he should not fear the formidable task being assigned to him. Even though a normal human being would not have the ability to just saunter into Pharaoh’s palace and make such demands, and even though a normal human being would not have the ability to persuade an entire nation of people to pick everything up and leave their homeland, Moshe was about to be infused with a superhuman strength that was not his own. This is what Hashem meant when he said to Moshe (3:12): “כִּי־אֶהְיֶה עִמָּךְ” – “I will be with you; you will not be doing this on your strength, but rather with the special Divine energy that I am implanting within you.” “וְזֶה־לְּךָ הָאוֹת כִּי אָנֹכִי שְׁלַחְתִּיךָ” – “And this, the Burning Bush, is the symbol of what you are about to become.” You will be “on fire,” filled with a superhuman energy that will not consume you. Why, then, did Moshe object an additional two times, even after Hashem’s explanation? Some commentaries suggest that Moshe couldn’t understand why Hashem would choose such a flawed “vessel” to be His representative. “I have a speech impediment! Wouldn’t you rather choose Your representative as someone who can at least speak properly?”Moshe mirroring the burning bush
Hashem’s response to Moshe was, just to the contrary, I want you to be a complete receptacle of Divine power. Just as a dry bush is perhaps the most combustible of plants, I have chosen you to be the bearer of eloquent speech precisely because of your speech handicap. This will prove to Pharaoh and all the onlookers that you are coming not of your own strength, but from a Divine “fire” that was miraculously implanted within you. We can now understand Moshe’s third objection. Moshe viewed himself not only as a man with a speech impediment, but also as a person who, over the years, had become a peaceful shepherd, and who was anything but aggressive and belligerent. God had told Moshe (3:19): “I know that the king of Egypt will not give you permission to leave,” “וְלֹא בְּיָד חֲזָקָה” – “especially because he has such a strong grip [‘hand’] upon the people.” Wouldn’t it make more sense, reasoned Moshe, to have someone with an aggressive personality, someone who could counter the very strong “hand” of Pharaoh? This is why Moshe used the word “hand” in this last protest. This is when Hashem displayed anger to Moshe. Hashem had expected Moshe to be His sole representative, and that Moshe would be able to alter his personality, overcome his natural aversion to confrontation, and rise to the occasion. When Moshe demurred this third time, Hashem scolded him by telling him that if Moshe could not bring himself to aggressively stand up to Pharaoh by himself, then Aharon, Moshe’s brother, would need to assist him and provide the moral support and encouragement necessary to follow through on this difficult task.Our destiny
This story is not just a lesson about Moshe. It’s a lesson for each of us. Rav Mordechai Lainer suggested that when asked, “Who am I, that I should act as the redeemer,” Moshe was really asking a more existential question: “What is within me? Is this really my destined path? Is this project my raison d'être, my reason for being?” This is sometimes the greatest paralyzing factor in one’s life. We never really know for sure whether the endeavor that I’m investing so much of my life into – whether it’s a career, a relationship, a community project, etc. – is really what I’m supposed to be doing. Perhaps someone else would be better served doing this, or perhaps it shouldn’t be done at all. Hashem’s response to Moshe, for every objection, was “כִּי־אֶהְיֶה עִמָּךְ” – “I am with you on this journey.” We should all view ourselves as receptacles for Hashem’s will. We will never know for sure “who we are” and what our true destiny is. All we can do is hope that even when the task seems to be formidable or even insurmountable, that Hashem will imbue us with a supernatural “fire” that will allow us to complete the task.Getting it just right
The important thing is not to demur or ruminate over our options for too long of a period. Hesitation born from self-doubt and caution is fine for a brief period, but not for an extended period. When one is working on preparing a meal, if you don’t spend enough time on kitchen prep, if you don’t add enough spice, the food will come out bland. But if you spend too much time shaking that salt shaker, adding spice, and otherwise trying to “patchke” with your food, you will end up ruining it. Similarly, one can spend a lifetime deliberating over what to do, how to do it, when to do it, etc. But if we don’t pull the trigger at some point, we will have squandered the most important gift of existence, our life itself. May we all have the merit of discovering who we are. May Hashem continue to imbue our chayalim with the miraculous “fire” that impels them to victory. May we all do great things over the different chapters of our lives, so that we can help in ushering the ultimate Redemption, bb”a.Dec 27, 2023
Parshat Vayechi 2023
Fathers and Sons
By Rabbi Daniel Korobkin In preparing his sons for his final words of wisdom and blessings, Yaakov summoned his sons. It’s quite curious that Yaakov presented a long monologue in inviting his sons for the blessings, a whole two verses (49:1-2): Yaakov called his sons and said, “Gather [Heb: הֵאָסְפוּ] and I will tell you what will befall you at the end of days. Assemble [Heb: הִקָּבְצוּ] and listen, sons of Yaakov, and listen to Yisrael, your father.” Why so much verbiage to simply gather his sons together? What is the difference between “gather” (הֵאָסְפוּ) and “assemble” (הִקָּבְצוּ)? Finally, why did the father call himself both “Yaakov” and “Yisrael” in this invitation? Notice that the verb of the first verse is Yaakov saying that he will “tell” his children what will be in the future. But the verb of the second verse is Yaakov saying to his sons that they should “listen” to him. When reading this as a father, I can relate. Sometimes, we may call our children over to tell them something, but noting that they may not be that interested in what we have to say, we caution them to listen carefully before saying what we’d like to say. There is obviously no way for us to know the nature and depth of the relationships that Yaakov shared with his sons, especially once Yoseph was discovered to be alive and the family made its way to Egypt. It would appear, however, that there were many unanswered questions, and the relationships were strained as a result. Imagine a father in that situation calling over his children, wishing to preach something profound about themselves and their future.The insights of parents
It would be quite understandable if one or more of Yaakov’s children harbored the attitude: “My father’s never understood me all these years. He never heard my side of the story, never reconciled my behavior, and there’s so much unspoken between us. He now presumes to know me enough to tell me about my future?” How often do we as children feel that our parents don’t get us? How often do we as parents get the sense that our children feel that way about us? The part that the children don’t understand is that the parents were once children themselves. They often have insights into their children because they see how much their children resemble them when they were children. They recognize the inner conflicts, the unresolved problems, the emotional turmoil of their children, because they went through it when they were younger. Of course, the children don’t see that; all they see is a wiser, calmer, and older adult, and so they conclude that their parent couldn’t possibly understand the challenges they face. And that’s where they’d be mistaken. Yaakov called his sons initially to tell them to physically gather together (הֵאָסְפוּ), because he had something he needed to share with all of them. But then, in the second verse, knowing his children might harbor negative thoughts about his message, he said, “Assemble (הִקָּבְצוּ) yourselves and listen.” This was not a call to physically come together, but rather a plea to emotionally and mentally pay attention. Put aside your negative thoughts about what you think I know or don’t know about you. Let’s reconcile just for a moment because maybe something that I have to say may be insightful to your situation and who you are.Understanding our children
According to R. Bechaye, the reason why the father used both his names Yaakov and Yisrael was because he was reminding them that he sired most of his children when his name was simply “Yaakov.” He only became the more noble, wise, and exalted “Yisrael” after his children were born. With this, we may understand what he was communicating to his sons: I do understand your inner demons. I was not always the man who lies before you today, wise and composed as I am on my deathbed. There was a time when I was filled with youthful vigor and impetuousness just as you may be today. I was Yaakov, grasping at the heel of life, trying to keep my head above water. You are my sons; as such, you carry within you so many of the characteristics that I possessed when I was your age. This is why you should listen to me, because you are “sons of Yaakov” – you’re just like I was so many years ago. Furthermore, take my words seriously because I am now Yisrael. You may think I don’t understand you, but realize that I have struggled my entire life (which is what the name “Yisrael” means). I have struggled with my own demons and with others’ demons. Through that process, I have learned how to maneuver the difficult straits of life. I cannot say that I’m 100% proud of everything I’ve done, but I can say that I’ve developed wisdom over these years and can now impart to you some of the things I’ve learned over the years through my struggles. Use that wisdom because it will help you for the future.Father and Son
One of my favorite songs is “Father and Son” by Cat Stevens (1970). Its lyrics are simple but hard-hitting. The song describes an exchange between a father and a son, where the father tries to give his son fatherly advice, and the son, frustrated, concludes that his father just doesn’t understand: The father says: It's not time to make a change; just relax, take it easy. You're still young, that's your fault, there's so much you have to know. Find a girl, settle down, if you want you can marry. Look at me, I am old, but I'm happy. I was once like you are now, and I know that it's not easy to be calm when you've found something going on. But take your time, think a lot, think of everything you've got. For you will still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not. The son angrily says to himself: How can I try to explain? When I do he turns away again. It's always been the same, same old story. From the moment I could talk, I was ordered to listen. Now there's a way, and I know that I have to go away. I know I have to go.Reassuring our children
Fathers and sons have been struggling and misunderstanding each other from time immemorial. Yaakov tried his best to reassure his children that he did understand them. He granted each son what he felt each one needed to hear. For some, his words were harsh rebuke, and for others, they were soothing blessings. But Yaakov always spoke out of the love that a father has for his son. May we all learn from the words of our fathers and mothers. One of the most touching scenes from the war in Gaza is the time right around 7 pm, where each chayal is calling their children to wish them a good night, and showering them with the unique and heartwarming love of a parent who cannot be there. It is that love that Yaakov sought to shower upon his children. May all parents have the wisdom to offer words that will be heard. Moms and dads, take some extra time to “bless” your children. If you don’t have children, bless those whom you can positively influence. Give them your own words of praise and hope on Friday night before blessing them, and find other times to engage with them. This way, both fathers and sons will see the ultimate Redemption, bb”a.Dec 19, 2023
Parshat Vayigash 2023
The Economics of Living Jewishly
By Rabbi Daniel Korobkin By the time Yoseph had settled his family, the years of famine intensified in Egypt. Yoseph devised a system that would enable Egyptian society to pull itself out of the famine. He took the grain that he had amassed during the years of plenty, and distributed it to each Egyptian family. In exchange, each Egyptian had to forfeit his property to the state. Now that all real estate belonged to Pharaoh, Yoseph was in a position to impose a grain tax upon every farmer. The new policy was that for every five bushels of grain harvested, one bushel had to be returned to the government, and the other four bushels could be kept by the individual farmer and his family. In essence, it was a 20% tax on all new agriculture (see 47:23-24). This system was implemented not only during the years of famine, but for all perpetuity. This was a very industrious and wise way of keeping the government strong and its treasury well-stocked. But why do you and I need to know this? Why does the Torah dedicate space to Yoseph’s economic plan for Egyptian society? Furthermore, why the arbitrary tax of 20%? What does that number signify?Consumerism and society
We suggest that Yoseph was planning for the future of his family’s long sojourn in Egypt. He knew that in order for his family to spend generations in Egypt, there would need to be changes in the societal structure that would enable his family to spiritually survive the allures and the harmful values that were deeply embedded within Egyptian society. One of the values that Egyptians held dear was that of consumerism. They were very into indulging themselves in all manner of pleasure and luxury. They viewed it as their right to live fatly off the land and exploit the fruits of their efforts to the fullest extent. In 1904, in his essay, The Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism, Max Weber published his findings that religion played a significant role in the success of capitalism. Weber argued that the only way for capitalism to succeed was if members of that society acted with self-restraint, based on a religious value that advocated living an austere and modest life. A particular strand of Protestantism, know as Calvinism, emphasized this value. When Calvinists were successful, instead of spending their hard-earned money on luxury items, they reinvested the money into their businesses. Making money and reinvesting it in order to make more money was the origin of the values and spirit of capitalism. (In fact, one of the reasons why we’re seeing certain systemic collapses within our western capitalist system is because capitalism can only succeed when individual consumers behave with a certain degree of restraint and humility. When hedonism becomes the prevailing ethic, when people stop saving and reinvesting their money, and when people wantonly exploit the other, capitalism begins to collapse.)The wisdom in taking the fifth
Ancient Egypt did not share in that Calvinist work ethic. Yoseph realized that the Egyptian hedonistic value system would be detrimental for his family. He wanted, in some way, to detach Egyptians from their sense of entitlement, and therefore took possession of their land. By taxing their land, they would be reminded that the land was only on loan to them. This also instilled within everyone the values of restraint and humility. Yoseph believed that this socio-economic change would help his family come to the same conclusion: We aren’t the arbiters of our own destiny. We own nothing in this life, not even our own bodies. Hashem runs the world and owns all the property (Ps. 24:1): “לַד' הָאָרֶץ וּמְלוֹאָהּ”. – “The whole world and its contents are God’s.” If we look at the verses carefully, we’ll note that there was a wisdom in Yoseph taking a fifth of every farmer’s grain. Yoseph professed that every family was entitled to four portions of their yield to correspond to four essential needs for grain within every family (in 47:23): (1) you need grain to use as seed for planting your fields; (2) you need grain to eat and nourish yourselves so that you may work; (3) you need grain for your “house,” i.e., everyone is entitled to a silo of grain to provide a sense of security and to barter for other goods, such as clothing and shelter; (4) finally, you need grain to feed your children who are too young to fend for themselves. Yoseph felt that once the four essential needs for grain were met, he could take a remaining portion, the fifth portion, for Pharaoh.Directing money towards essentials
I believe that there is a similar message, not only for Egyptian society, but for each of us. Sefer Charedim (16th cent.), quoting Rabbi Ovadya of Bartenura, states that every Jew should spend a fifth of their income on charity and other mitzvos. That is, after you’ve spent your hard-earned income on the essentials of living: (1) money that needs to be reinvested in your business, (2) money to buy groceries, (3) money to pay for other essentials such as clothing, rent, and utilities, and (4) money to raise your children, the remaining “fifth” of your income should go to acts of charity, kindness, and other mitzvos. He cites our verse, of Yoseph taking a fifth for Pharaoh, as an allusion to this, since the word “Pharaoh” is connected to the word “פרעון”, paying a debt back to God for all that He has given us. That is, despite the often economic drain of living life as an Orthodox Jew, one of the benefits of spending so much money on doing mitzvot is that this in itself reminds us that the money was never ours to begin with.A lesson for the brothers
If we are correct, this would explain an uncanny wordplay that appears in the Yoseph story. In last week’s parsha, before Yoseph revealed himself to his brothers, he seated them all for a meal after they brought his brother Binyamin down to Egypt with them. The Torah states that he gave each brother a portion of food, drink, and gifts, but that the portion given to Binyamin at the table was five times that of the other brothers (43:34): וַיִּשָּׂא מַשְׂאֹת מֵאֵת פָּנָיו אֲלֵהֶם וַתֵּרֶב מַשְׂאַת בִּנְיָמִן מִמַּשְׂאֹת כֻּלָּם חָמֵשׁ יָדוֹת וַיִּשְׁתּוּ וַיִּשְׁכְּרוּ עִמּוֹ The verbiage is too similar to our parsha’s wording of Pharaoh’s fifth portion to be a coincidence. It may be that Yoseph was illustrating a lesson to his brothers, using Binyamin, his full brother, as a surrogate for a younger version of himself: What you did to me was an attempt to have it all. You felt that you were the architects of your own destiny, and that you could and would do whatever ruthless act it took in order to succeed in life. You saw me as a threat to your plans, and so eliminated me. You failed to remember that the fifth portion belongs to Hashem, because that’s all He asks of us to remind ourselves that He’s in control of everything. Remember the fifth portion, brothers. Remember that it’s Hashem world, so that you won’t destroy another person ever again in your ambition to succeed.The blessing that makes life worth living
No doubt, it’s expensive to live life as an Orthodox Jew. I often wonder if ba’alei teshuva and converts fully appreciate the economic realities of this lifestyle. But I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Spending one’s income on things like Torah education, kosher food, Shabbos and Yom Tov celebration with family, honoring one’s parents, etc., is what makes life worth living. These expenditures also remind us that the income we’ve been blessed with is Hashem’s gift to us, no matter how hard we may have worked for it. He gives us our lives and all we have, so the least we can do is return a fifth to Him. May we succeed in living lives filled with that sense of joy and purpose. Perhaps we can also learn a bit from our Calvinist cousins and try to live modestly as well. May our efforts at expending our income for mitzvos bring us ever closer to the Redemption, bb”a.Dec 12, 2023