In this week’s Parsha, the Maor VaShemesh finds two lessons about spiritual growth hidden in different parts of Ki Teitzei.
The first begins with the laws of Eishet Yefat Toar. Chazal explain that the Torah permits the beautiful captive as an accommodation to the yetzer hara. He asks a striking question: why would the exceptionally righteous soldiers who went to war require such a concession? Why would they even be tempted?
The Maor VaShemesh sees the Eishet Yefat Toar as a mashal for the process by which we grow and overcome the yetzer hara. Sometimes we begin by doing the right things for the wrong reasons. Torah learning is his example. At first, we may not yet be capable of learning entirely lishmah, for its own sake, and so we are allowed to begin shelo lishmah, for less-than-pure reasons, because doing so can eventually bring us to something higher: mitoch shelo lishmah ba lishmah, from doing it for the wrong reasons, we can come to do it for the right ones.
But there is also a danger in the success itself. Like the soldiers returning from victory, they can become caught up in the exhilaration of what they have accomplished while the motivations that brought them there remain imperfect. The Torah therefore builds in a period of waiting. We do not simply follow that initial desire. We stop, struggle with it, and begin stripping away the wrong motivations. What was initially shelo lishmah can gradually become lishmah. The Maor VaShemesh connects that process directly to Elul, a month for looking back at where and why we began, and working to transform it into something higher.
His second teaching turns from our own growth to the way we respond to others. The command to return a fellow Jew’s wandering ox or sheep becomes an instruction for helping someone whose avodat Hashem has wandered from its proper path. But helping does not always mean correcting. If we know the person will listen, we should speak. If not, the Maor VaShemesh tells us to hold our words until the person is ready to seek and receive them.
Together, the two teachings offer a striking perspective on spiritual growth. In ourselves, growth may mean beginning imperfectly, then having the patience and discipline to confront what still needs to change. With others, it requires a different kind of patience: knowing not only what someone may need to hear, but when they are ready to hear it.
Use this source sheet for further exploration of Parshat Ki Teitzei, complete with footnoted sources and a concise, footnoted bio of R. Kalonymus Kalman Epstein (Ma’or Va-Shemesh) to enjoy this teaching at your own pace, perfect for self-learners.
Prepared by Rabbi Shalom (Saul) Orbach
The Ma’or Va-Shemesh is a classic Hasidic commentary on the weekly portions and festivals by R. Kalonymus Kalman Epstein of Kraków (1751-1823). A foremost later disciple, and for years the Shamash, of R. Elimelech of Lizhensk, he emerged after his rebbe’s passing as a leading figure in the fourth generation of Chassidut and of Polish Hasidism. His Torah blends close reading of the Psukim with mystical depth, emphasizing Dvekut, heartfelt prayer, joy, and sanctifying the everyday, with a hallmark leadership ethic: the tzaddik sweetens judgment into mercy and draws people close.
